Men need women and I am 100% convinced.

I got sucked into a conversation a few days back where in there were a huge debate / discussion on women and men primarily needing each other for sex and procreation. A few agreed and few disagreed and each one had strong positions like always. Long after the topic shifted to other mundane things I kept thinking about why women need men and similarly men need women. I strongly believe that women need men and vice versa for more reasons than only for procreation and physical gratification.

This made me to think about how important women are for men. Top of mind can think of several reasons / ways in which women are essential for life the way we live and the way we are. And it not about sex, procreation, giving birth and bringing up kids. So here are several reasons and in no particular order

• If we did not have women to crib and rant about think of what will happen to male bonding. All married men bond by sharing wife cribs and bachelors bond by sharing girlfriend cribs. Those in love are exception and awaiting their reality check moment. It surely comes is all I can say
Imagine a world where you do not have women to blame for not letting your things be where you left them, for tiding up, for not finding the stuff you did not touch for last few months but expect it to be somewhere around, for always ensuring you plan in advance and stick to it
Imagine if the above did not happen, there would be no conversation after 10 minutes and how boring that would be.

• What will a man do with all the money he earns if there are no women to spend? This leads to man cribbing about so much spend at every possible forum and occasion. Doctors say cribbing is good for de – stressing and hence leads to a decrease in our stress levels and saves us from future heart attacks

• One should always learn as learning is a continuous process. Think of all the valuable lessons lost on what to wear, what colors look good on you, to be aware that world is more than blue and white with an occasional black, bathroom etiquettes, being sensitive, when to say yes (always) and when to say no (never), importance of getting ready in 5 minutes and smiling while you wait for an hour for wife to get ready, listening skills, I could go on but finally its about learning to feel lucky in life and be positive. (We never learn do we? but in the process we fall in love with the rigmarole and love women for trying to teach us and silently thank them all our lives)


• It would be unfair to only mention what we get out of the relationship. We also give a lot. We spend many hours pretending to listen (while thinking of everything else possible), we give up many a beer parties so that we can spend time at home, we appreciate new curtain, bedcover, flower vase etc (even if it does not matter and we never will bother again). We always know women are never fat and never look it. We always appreciate new dress, understand women can never have enough shoes or bags, are always willing to hear about tales at the beauty parlor, always love the new look, always ready to help the mom – in – law and surely always keep our weekends free so that women can plan it for us.

All that I mentioned above I still feel strongly we need women. We need them as they give a meaning and a new dimension to our life. They make things meaningful. Imagine Rakhi without a sister or Diwali without women of the household. How boring and dull the world will be if we were all the same and there were no differences, no fights, no arguments and thus no reason to make up, charm, and fall in love over and over again. Women enrich our lives, help us engage our minds, reinforce a lot of values we grew up with, challenge us and thus keep us on the edge, sharp and ready to face any challenge. They are always our pillars of support irrespective of when we need it and what ever the reason is.

We need women to build our lives, raise family together, to enjoy our success with, to share our sorrows, to grow old with and have a lifetime worth living. And I don’t know about women but am sure that men need women in their lives. I am thankful to God for the women in my life, my mother, sister and wife. (Shit now I will have to justify the order…bless me God!)